Have you ever found yourself saying:

"I wish I had a friend or mentor to help me get through my divorce.

Someone who could have given me better advice at the time."

Well, here I am...I'm THAT friend. 

A survivor who's stood where you are

and has went through the aggravating battle of divorce

while fighting for custody of my children.

And guess what? I came out on the other side, STRONGER.

So who exactly am I?

And why should you trust me as your new best friend? 

My name is Melissa Oatman, and I am a business owner, author, teacher, intuitive life coach, and a mom of TWINS! 


17 years ago, I was a lost and scared young mom in an abusive and extremely toxic marriage with my one-year-old twins in tow. 

I didn't know where I was going or what I would do.

I wasn't working and I had to make some IMPORTANT decisions about

what I wanted to do with my life and where I was going to live.

It was a confusing and frightening time for me. 

While I managed to get through the first couple of months,

I'll never forget the first Christmas after my divorce.

It was a sad moment for me, I didn't have much money,

and I no longer had a partner to share the special memories of watching our kids open their toys.  

Though I couldn't see it at the time, in hindsight divorce gave me a chance

to COMPLETELY REINVENT who I was and

change the way I showed up as a mother to my

two amazing high school seniors

that didn't just survive the divorce, they THRIVED!

Isn't that what's truly important?

Raising kids who not only bounce back from the divorce,

but positively channel their emotions

to become intelligent, caring and kind adults

that you're so freaking proud of.